This is a dilemma with many working women who want to get into motherhood. But it isn't that difficult as the idea seems to be. Things get really simple if one stays with her in-laws or her parents live near by. Grandparents love to take care of thier granchildren and will ensure that the child is brought up with love and discipline. About career break...any good organisation will give you sabbatical for 2-3 months..some even pay you for that duration.

Hi Rohini,

This is is that hardest part of motherhood. It's really important to know your priorities first. I don't know what type of position you hold in your job now. But, according to me my child would be my first preference and then my career. I have several reasons to support this. I know, nobody can ever give the love and care that a mother or a father gives to their child. You get only 6 precious years of your child to mould them, to love them, to care them, hug them & to teach them values in life. Once they step into School, there will be no time for them or to you to really discuss things or play together. Last friday, I attended a seminar on Parenting and the resource person said, she regrets her decision of going back to work leaving her 3 months young child with her nanny, 8 years ago. Now, she has 4 children and she is a Counsellor by profession and she earns very well.

Now this doesn't mean that you have to sacrifice your career and look after your baby all day long. There are several options you could choose from. You can find a company where there is a option of working from home for young mothers. You can also work as a freelancer in your own field from home. There are tonns of options, only you need to discover it. I am a mom and I work from home as a Virtual Assistant. I have neither sacrificed my career nor left my child with nanny. But, I am very happy with my life. Let me know if you need any info on working from home.

Jessie

I left my 10 days baby to a friend and went to work. So i can understand your feeling. Lucky i had a good friend to take care of my son and my office also 5 minutes walk. And also i had a very understanding GM and I hold the position of vice Asst.Manager that time, so it was easy to take breaks in between and go home to see the baby..

Try to bring your mum for sometime to take care of baby. Shift the house near to your office for timebeing. I know to say things, it is easy.... But find a solution and never leave your job....but take care of the kid also.

Most of the institutions especially the government one's are obliged to give sufficient maternity leaves to their women employees. The colleagues are also very cooperative to expectant mothers.This should take care of the 1st year of the child.Subsequently you should put your child in a good neighborhood day care centre. Please don't bring any relative,they will create more problem than provide solution.Between the two of you,let your Khandan grow & prosper. I find the DINK concept very scary and against the order of nature

What is DINK concept? please enlight me eskayji.

Yes, what's DINK?

DINK means "Double income no kids". This concept has gained acceptance in the western world and is beginning in India as well.Many a couple with double income wishing to enjoy life to the fullest ,without the responsibility of kids ,are adopting this concept.Their mantra of life is,"Kaho Peeyo aur aish Karo" and also they beleive," Bachey achey hotain hain agar dusserey Kay hon toh!!!!!!!! Weird , Isn't it ????.

Very wierd thought...ACTUALLY SHOCKED.. Well DINK is ok for first two years of marriage, afterwards life will be meaningless without kids.. No responsiblity will lead you to FED UP case

I think Dinks is a corollary of the Live in relationship concept. When you are living in a 'no strings attached ' kind of arrangement,kids are obviously a definite no no.How cunning we men are and how naive are you girls. We are ever ready to administer the opium of 'TRUE LOVE' to the eves to sexually exploit them. And every single one of your tribe refuses to learn ,ending up learning the hard way at the end of the day.George B.Shah famously remarked that no one can exploit a lady without her consent which already exists.When you people will learn.. Every bloody single male walking the earth is waiting in different lucrative garbs to exploit you on one pretext or the other. No one is sacrosanct.Each one of them is a lurking wolf in lamb's clothing.Be wise and refuse to be a sacrificial lamb.Consider every male a grave danger until and unless proved otherwise.

Actually in the old good days our forefathers lived on the SINK concept of life I.e. single income nine kids,which was followed by the HDHD concept.i.e.hum do hamare do which is being further upgraded to the DINK concept by Z plus generation.Darwin Uncle must be turning in his grave as his theory of evolution is being replaced by the theory of devolution.

Eskay, I am being looked upon by my colleagues as I laugh at my workstation reading your post! SINK - brilliant!

Tumahre labon pe hansi aaye,subhanallah,

Tum khil khila kar muskarai, subhanallah

Yun to bahut si baton par aati hain hansi,

Meri baton. par. aaye , subhanallah !!!!!!

SINK ---- Oh NO

HDHD - is perfect

Oh come on! Of all the numbers,number nine is the most auspicious one .Mrs Rabari Devi w/o Shri Lalu Prasad will vouch for it.You can exchange notes with her. She can act as a role model for all the would be moms of the world.

Mr. Eskay, Rabri ji is indeed a smart woman. When she realised that she had gone for a SINK; she became active in politics and changed it into DINK. Although N stays for nine (the auspicious part of it) .. :D