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Joint Family or Nuclear Family

namrata724  Join Date:29 April 2010
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30 Aug 2009 12:08 PM
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The urban life of today is getting dissected and the joint family concept is slowly becoming a vague concept. In earlier times, there use to be big families with lots of couples, in-laws and children. Such families although have their own critical consequences but the share of happiness was immense. It seems that the concept will soon become a pre historic norm. The working couples of the contemporary era prefer to stay alone and the availability of money due to inflow of cash on putting joint effort offer wings to their desires. Taking care of the children is also no more a Herculean task now, as, several day cares and excellent institutions for children have made it a cakewalk. Now the question is whether it is joint family or nuclear family and it is difficult to answer this. Both the set ups have their own benefits and drawbacks. As some of the couples put much stress on their freedom while some others are bothered about the level of stability and security offered by the joint family.

Therefore, at a given point of time, if anyone happens to come across the question whether they prefer joint family or nuclear family, it is sure that no body will be able to answer the query at the first instance. On one hand the outcome of enjoying unlimited privacy and the break free from the traditions will rule. On the other hand, the constant guard of various experienced eyes over the activities of your children, the safe guard that comes from standing in unity is also lucrative.

The basis of living together or moving apart depend upon the mutual understanding that comes naturally by living together over time. The respect and trust prevailing between the two generations is also another basis that also has the influence on the difference. If the relationship with the in-laws and the other family members is not a easy one then also itís going to affect the consequence of living all together or drifting away from each other. This also affects the mutual relationship between the couple staying in such company.

Still there are exceptions too. In many cases, people are bound to live away in lieu of job and lack of emotional bond is no way an element to define, whether it is going to be a joint family or Nuclear Family. Therefore, it is better to stick to ones individual outlook and point of view and to select the set up ideal.


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sndnjdbf  Join Date:04 November 2012 | Bahamas
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The urban life of today is getting dissected and the joint family concept is slowly becoming a vague concept. In earlier times, there use to be big families with lots of couples, in-laws and children. Such families although have their own critical consequences but the share of happ

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eskay  Join Date:04 September 2012 | Delhi | India
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05 Nov 2012 05:31 PM
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 The dilemma facing the families of today has very well been presented in the article. The pros and cons of both the concepts make it a difficult choice to decide either way.But in the problem itself lies the solution.Recently a relative of ours got their only son married.They  allowed the newly weds to stay with them for a month or so and then got them shifted to a nearby house,fully furnished and stocked as per their wishes. Now all are very happy,enjoying their individual spaces,and every now and then staying over at each other`s places.Under the present day circumstances,it appears to be the best solution.

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jaya  Join Date:29 November 2012 | United Arab Emirates
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06 Dec 2012 12:56 PM
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 Yes Eskay...you said it

But deep in my heart i still yarn for those childhood days. JOINED FAMILY. Carefree life, because lots of elders are there to take care of things. Same time, learnt  to adjust, tolerate and Respect elders. These basic qualities were missing in the new generation.

Nowadays youngters were selfish, self centered and lack of patience

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eskay  Join Date:04 September 2012 | Delhi | India
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06 Dec 2012 01:46 PM
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 Every older generation is ever ready to find faults with the later ones.But it must be appreciated that if they don`t change with the time,they will become laggards.Times have changed,my dear,if we cann`t change ,we must learn to grin and bear it.  In our old good days,getting 60% plus marks was a milestone in one`s life.I remember how I was felicitated on getting  such marks.And today DU has 100 %marks cut off for certain courses.The youngsters do have values and respect for us,simply they don`t wear it on their sleeves.They have their own living and thinking style which can be very offensive to our sentivities.So why not give them space and freedom to live their lives on their terms. And remember that give only such advice to the kids that they want to be given.let them learn the hard way,as did we.

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jaya  Join Date:29 November 2012 | United Arab Emirates
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06 Dec 2012 02:05 PM
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 In nuclear family, kids gets full attention and their wishes are fulfiled in no time. so they could not understand the value of things and appreciate it.

This I noticed in lot of families...

Also I noticed Lack of patience and lack of confidence, when they face failures.

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eskay  Join Date:04 September 2012 | Delhi | India
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06 Dec 2012 02:41 PM
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 But I think it`s the other way round. The nuclear family kids are more smart,self assured,go getter and focused than a joint family ones.  Okay the are pampered but they are more cared for and attended to. They learn to take their own decisions and not to take a referendum on every issue.The biggest lesson one learns in a nuclear family is to be on one`s own and not be dependent on others for personal issues.

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gitamg  Join Date:26 April 2011 | India
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10 Dec 2012 08:34 AM
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 Todays nuclear families find it difficult to adjust with in laws.The elder children of such families live their lives; the parents are busy with  their carriers. On the other hand children of joint families respect elders and know that they are answerable to elders when they do something wrong. The parents can depend on the elders in the family to keep an eye on their children. Small children are well taken care. They need not depend on baby sitters or creches. There is more give and take in joint families.The girls in such families become more responsible and can adjust well with their future in-laws.

 

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Nishita136  Join Date:20 November 2012 | Delhi | India
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10 Dec 2012 09:58 AM
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 It isn`t about family structure, it`s about family. Generalisations are no guide to such comparisons. I have seen children of joint families going astray in thier life. Also I have met people from joint families who look perfect in physical and mental health with thier own success stories.

If I talk about myself, I am a completely different person from my sister. Same family, simliar upbringing and qualification. Yes, no denying values and systems but those can be a part of any family despite the size of the family. A traditional nuclear family or a liberal joint family...I believe one becomes what he/she is supposed to be :)


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