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Sikh girl and tamil boy!

lovelys178  Join Date:05 March 2011 | India
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05 Mar 2011 05:45 PM
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hi i am a sikh girl . recently i met a tamil boy through a matrimonial website and we really clicked . i found a lot of good qualities in him which i want in my partner . but the problem is he is a nadar by caste and i am a schedule caste , moreover in his no one really knows hindi. i stopped conversation with him thinking that its a difficult situation where the guy knows only english and his parents know tamil , so how would we interact . but even after so many months and meeting a few more guys i feel he is one of the best i have known .
he has told me lots of time that he likes me a lot and was very unhappy when i said we cant go further due to all caste religion and language bariers .
i am in realy confusion , should i marry this guy ?
i would like to hear about such marriage experience between a sikh n tamil .
your valuable advice is welcomed.

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ganesamoorth  Join Date:11 March 2011 | India
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11 Mar 2011 08:53 AM
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better to marry the same nadar boy. be cause you are in love love has the power to joint people from unknown country, unknown religion, unknown caste.

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deva142  Join Date:11 March 2011 | India
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11 Mar 2011 11:55 AM
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u r not going to live with his language...he could understand u watever u say right.,..by the times his parents also would understand language,,,,so that there s nothing to get confused....just marry n live happy life with him....

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gayathri.  Join Date:07 February 2011 | India
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22 Mar 2011 08:17 PM
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better you learn tamil. its simple. your life will be fruitful. all the best.

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pk  Join Date:23 March 2011 | India
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23 Mar 2011 08:20 PM
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never give up ur hope....in ur situation its only the language barrier which u can learn in a month or two....dont adjust with life thinkin about diff. language...better learn tht language n have a love-ly life....same in my case...m in love with another caste gal...m struggling...n need to struggle alot...i will never give up....

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narmadha1  Join Date:24 March 2011 | India
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24 Mar 2011 06:59 AM
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hi, If you feel that you cannot live with out him, then better marry him. But try to live a life that cannot be broken till your life ends. Language is not at all a problem...when you guys are in true love. If his parents are not able to understand your language, its better for you to learn Tamil and liaise with them. Tamil is such a wonderful language. If you start learning it, you can do it in 30 days. Hope for the best. Dont confuse yourself.

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ajay15  Join Date:03 April 2011 | India
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03 Apr 2011 05:38 PM
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Yes one side will always remain in dark of life as u dont' know the mother lanuguage of each other, u can not heartly expressed ur feelings in your non mother language.

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sakthi555  Join Date:08 April 2011 | India
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08 Apr 2011 04:57 PM
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Language and religion are not barriers to life. I've seen people who live their life happily eventhough they have different mother languages. If a true love is there, nothing can be an obstacle. U can easily learn the language. But the best idea is go along with your parents decision

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revanth  Join Date:13 April 2011 | India
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13 Apr 2011 10:04 PM
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Gud thought came on your mind..... just think once again and take a right decission.... my decission is that u can marry him, but once again u check whether he is cheating u with a lie....

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sudhakar  Join Date:11 May 2011 | India
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11 May 2011 12:39 AM
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If you are fond of him, better, you marry him. Language is not a barrier. If you both have will, you can learn mutual languages and could conversate in all the languages. Best part is love. If you love him-marry him. Nowadays who are seeing caste and religion.

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thamizharasa  Join Date:04 June 2011 | India
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04 Jun 2011 03:51 PM
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hi If you feel that you cannot live with out him, then better marry him. But try to live a life that cannot be broken till your life ends. Language is not at all a problem...when you guys are in true love. If his parents are not able to understand your language, its better for you to learn Tamil and liaise with them. Tamil is such a wonderful language. If you start learning it, you can do it in 30 days. Hope for the best. Dont confuse yourself.

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swasya  Join Date:20 October 2011 | India
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20 Oct 2011 03:12 PM
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I'm a gal from nadar caste. And I know it better. Its difficult for u to get acceptance in this community. They are very caste conscious. So, unless both ur parents agree to the marriage, please dont marry him. I've made this mistake and paying the price now.

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gss  Join Date:21 October 2011 | India
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21 Oct 2011 05:29 PM
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please remember the sacrifices made by your sikh gurus for the protection of religion and act accordingly

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raj44  Join Date:23 January 2012 | India
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23 Jan 2012 06:16 PM
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think before act in life.....relation become with family, not with individual...choose your own caste person, love has no base in such marry

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raj45  Join Date:30 January 2012 | India
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30 Jan 2012 04:44 PM
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how stupid u can be in askin this question to others? ask ur parents 1st who have guided and supported u even before u could understand what alphabets mean.. forget language they taught u principles and loved u all their life and now that u know the language of love with some 1 barely a few months old .. u have forgottton ur parents language of love.. will they be happy ab out this? are u worhty enough to love some1 else.. what if u have to pay the same price.. u love this tamil guy and he dithces u just as u plan to dith ur parents.. i think its only fair that u understand that u cannnot live life on infatuations.. be practical and respect other peoples feelings.. and before all others respect ur parents feelings..

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sharavanan  Join Date:12 February 2012 | India
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12 Feb 2012 07:39 AM
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Nadar People are broad minded people. I have Lot of friends in that community and Family bonding will be very good with these people. I am a Tamil guy from Chettiar community. You can find lot of good qualities in them more than our Community. Just Check that guy alone about his personal behavior and his Parent's. That's enough. Every thing is Good. Proceed. You'll have a wonderful life.


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