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It is what every couple dreams about. It is what every girl or boy contemplating marriage would like achieve. The secret? Nurture, nurture, nurture. We have heard and read about successful marriages and have often wondered about what could be that one thing that separates a good marriage from a bad one. A happy marriage is often like a tasty dish – doesn’t everyone clamour for the recipe of the best dish on the table?
What then is the ideal recipe one can follow in order to achieve the ideal marriage?
â€"Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn't have to hear about all the men she could have married, and she didn't have to hear about the way his mother cooked†– thus goes an interesting tongue-in-cheek quote.
â€"Come to think of it! That must have been one ideal marriage!†says Aarti, a professional in an IT company who is having problems in her marriage because of her mother-in-law, a possessive battle-axe of a woman who just wouldn’t let her only son have a life of his own. She had to turn to Pranic healing to learn how to deal dispassionately with her problem – especially as she was getting totally stressed out and her health was causing concern.
One way of describing the 'relationship' in a marriage is that it is the space between you and another person. When one says ‘space’, it means the physical space, the emotional space, the energetic space and also the spiritual space between two people. Whatever we put into this relationship space either supports, develops, builds, strengthens it, or it weakens and pollutes it with tension and distress. It is absolutely important for us to pay attention to this sacred space as it is very easy for distresses both small and big to build up and reach unimaginable proportions leading to a total disconnection. It is not that this is done with the intention to pollute the space. It is more likely an act that is done without thinking about the likely impact it might have on the relationship itself but it results in shaking its very foundation as it is mostly done at the expense of the other person.
On the other side of this grim picture, the good news is that we each have the power at any time to begin to shift the climate, to create a relationship of respect, integrity, compassion and justice and in some, love in the deepest sense of the word.
We all know that conflicts erupt when we want different things, whether it’s what to do this weekend or how to raise our kids. It is how we communicate to each other about the problem that is really important.
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