In every relationship in your life, there is more to communication than the spoken word. Actions speak a language of their own. And much louder than words do. They give you hidden messages. And very often tell you what the mere words don't.

Do you have a tendency to get obsessed with what is being said and not what is being done? For instance, assume angry words are exchanged during an argument with your husband. You're so upset by what he has said that you fail to notice his gentle touch as he passes by. What does the touch say? That he cares for you in spite of the issue at hand. Why do we fail to ignore that message? Because it is not said aloud? Does it really need to be spelt out?

On the converse side of the argument, he whispers sweet nothings in your ear and is constantly telling you that you mean the world to him. But he doesn't seem to care when you fall ill and never remembers your birthday. What's more he has a roving eye for every passing chick. Which of these messages should you be heeding?

Are you paying too much attention to what he says? It could be because you're starved for conversation. And lo and behold! If he happens to be the strong silent guy, you'll think he's being indifferent and disinterested in you.

It's important to judge a man by his actions as well as his words. Sometimes there are messages between lines. Learn to read them too. At the same time, don't make a habit of it. If you keep looking for messages that don't exist, you could be reading the writing on the wall. That the relationship isn't working.

Communication in a relationship is many-sided and eclectic. You must learn how to read the varied languages of love.

The spoken word? That's basic communication. It is the gestures and the postures, the glances and smiles that really speak a more eloquent language. Enjoy them!

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