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 Ok!! Now you want to take things one step further. You want to move from "I think I want this relationship" to "I know I want this relationship". You want to commit.
Committing does not mean you are no longer afraid, or that you are 100 per cent certain that what you are about to do is absolutely the right thing. One part of you feels that this is the thing you ought to be doing and the rest of you is willing to take the risk of being wrong.
Both partners have to commit if the relationship is to last. Some people shy away from commitment because they are afraid of making mistakes. They may have a history of past mistakes, for which they mentally flog themselves. Before they can ever commit to another relationship, they must forgive themselves and heal those wounds. This is something each person must do for himself. It is a solo journey. What you can do is to make it safe for him to disclose his fears and wait for him to be ready. If he takes longer than your patience or timetable allows, then you will need to make a choice about whether to stay or move on. If you are the one who is willing but unable to make the shift from maybe to yes, then you will need to look inside yourself and examine what is standing in your way.
Some people want a guarantee that they are making the right choice and that this is "it". But commitment requires some measure of risk. There are no guarantees in life. The best you can do is search your heart for your truth, and if it tells you that this person is who you want, then you will have to take a leap of faith. You may never be totally 100 per cent certain that you are doing the right thing, but at the very least, you will learn some valuable life lessons. At the very most, you will initiate yourself in love's higher realms and experience the bliss of a sacred union.
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