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So, you met the guy, the chemistry is great and what you see, you love. And you are all ready to take things a step further. You want to get intimate You know that this is the relationship you want to pursue, and that you and your partner are ready to move into the next stage of love: Building the bonds of intimacy.

Intimacy is built through a deepening of your initial connection. It is allowing yourself to be vulnerable and, at the same time, making it safe for your beloved to disclose his deepest feeling and thoughts.

Building intimacy is an action. You need to make the effort. While connection and emotional chemistry are important in intimacy, you and your partner have to take small steps towards each other. The first thing you need to do is to open the door and allow your partner to see who you really are. Tell the truth about yourself - truth about things that you are not necessarily proud of. This way you offer your partner the opportunity to see your most basic human side. Exposing your fears, concerns, jealousies or uncomfortable truths from your past puts you at your most vulnerable and invites your partner to accept you fully as you are.

Sharing hopes, wishes and dreams creates bonds between people. Revealing private thoughts makes the man in your life feel like he is someone important. Withholding builds walls, disclosing builds bridges.

So, if he is the one, you need to make the effort to share as much of yourself as you can. Talk to him. Tell him your dreams, your fears. Give him the opportunity to share parts of his soul with you too. And that is the best way to get closer and build a strong bond between two people.