1. I have this silly problem. I got married to a perfectly nice guy. The problem is he is 5.7" and of late I have started feeling he is a bit short. I know that I am being unreasonable and selfish. But I just can't seem to forget. Please help me to help myself. Though everyone has advised me I just can't seem to forget.

I'm glad you've realized you've got a 'silly problem.' This problem evidently didn't worry you when you agreed to marry him. Why is it troubling you now? You are right - you're being terribly unreasonable. Put yourself in his shoes. What if he suddenly decides that he doesn't like the way you look and he wants some changes now? What can you do to change the size of your nose or the shape of your face? Extra height doesn't bring in more happiness. I suggest you accept your husband the way he is, just like he has accepted you for what you are. Life is too precious to be wasted on such trivial non-issues.

2. I'm 24 years old. I have a boyfriend and we have a good affair since last one and a half year. Since last 6 months or so I have hardly met him. Though we keep in touch over the phone. But we hardly meet for 15 minutes or so. When he asks for reason I always tell him that I need some time to made up my mind to meet him, but since last 15 days or so he acts as if I don't love him anymore and now he hardly talks me on phone too… please help me.

What do you understand or mean by 'a good affair?' If you mean that you were physically involved with this boy who has now distanced himself from you simply because you do not 'meet' often anymore - then, it simply means that the physical aspect of this relationship means more to this boy than your feelings and emotions. Think about it.

If by 'affair' you simply meant a romantic relationship, well, here again is the time to pause and think. If a few missed meetings can make him disinterested, then a long term relationship with this person will be a one-sided uphill task for you. Are you ready for that? Think. This is the right time.

3. I am 33 years old and am still unmarried. People in my office keep asking me as to why I am still single. The thing worrying me is that I lost my mother three years back and my father and two younger brothers are not able to fix up an alliance for me. Please tell me what to do.

The next time someone asks you this question, tell them it is your choice to remain single - till you find a guy you are very comfortable with. A lot of girls are unmarried at your age - it isn't a big deal at all.

If you need any womanly help, maybe you could speak to an aunt or cousin about this issue. It also helps to insert matrimonial ads in popular newspapers. Keep yourself busy and meet a lot of people. Things will work out sooner or later. All the very best to you.

4. I am a married woman and my husband loves me a lot. 3 years back I met this man and we hit it off right away. Over the last couple of years we have been in touch via email only. He told me last month on e-chat that he loves me and was sorry we could not get together all those years back. Then suddenly he became moralistic and said friendship with me is not possible in the light of how he feels about me. I told him then I had very platonic and harmless feelings for him. But now find myself seriously in love with him. Just a few days back he tells me that all he said earlier was a lie and he just finds me attractive and wanted me to go to bed with him.

This is the first guy I am so intrigued with and clearly attracted to. I think about him all the time and wish we could have been married. Can it be genuine love? I like to believe so considering I am old enough to know it when I see it. What do I do now? I have tried very hard to forget and move on but its NOT happening.

A woman can be attracted to a man and vice versa. It is a natural and spontaneous thing. If there are qualities that are mutually admirable and interesting, good lasting friendships can evolve.

To get to your situation - you are happily married, you say. Your husband loves you. Don't you love him? Any woman might feel good when a man finds her desirable. This has to do with an innate sense of wanting to be pampered, loved, admired and so on. This is not romantic love.

As for all the admissions, confusion and various confused signals that you have been sending and receiving on chat and e mail, please do not ruin the good life that you seem to have, hankering after 'could have been' and 'should have been' situations. What IS is true. Stay with that. Don't end up feeling cheap.

5. My husband wants me to have a 36-24-36 figure. But I am a 32-30-41. Please help me. I am terribly depressed.

Hold your horses. This is no reason to get depressed. Not many women have a 36 -24 - 36 figure. Your husband is aiming for perfection here. And many women haven't been able to achieve that in spite of many years of trying. You may be able to reduce your hip to 36 with effective exercising and a bit of luck. But how are you planning to your 32 to fill out to a 36? Lets get realistic about these things. You belong to the world of regular women. Not to the ones of a few pin up gals. Do you make any demands on how your husband's body should be? Haven't you accepted him the way he is? That's what happy marriages are all about. Not with a quest for perfection.

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