Try and establish some kind of relationship with your in-laws before you get married. It`s horrifying to start after you`ve tied the knot. Show them you are ready to be friendly. Go shopping with M-I-L if you like, only don`t be extravagant and most important of all - don`t tell her she`s got lousy taste.
Don`t go overboard with expectation. Just because they`ve said you`re welcome, that doesn`t mean there are no problems ahead. Grow a thick skin. Sticks and stones. Learn to shrug things away.
It`s best to spend quality time with your in-laws and yet each of you live your own lives and make your own decisions.
Remember, they are his family and will, therefore, mean a lot to him. They are of high priority to him. You are better off accepting that fact from the very beginning. There is no compulsion for you to feel the same way too, but there is a lot you will have to put up with. Remember, that he is probably finding it difficult putting up with your family too.
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Your in-laws might feel just as insecure or not accepted by you too. See it from their point of view. Relationship is a two-way street.
Little gestures make a lot of difference. Buy little gifts, discuss hobbies and bring over some hot soup if they are not well. You`ll earn plenty of brownie points.
A bad relationship with your in-laws could ruin your marriage. Don`t let it. Put up a good performance and hold on to your man.
Always be polite and put on a warm front. Never mind what you feel inside.
Make a genuine effort to like them. Don`t compare them unfavourably with other people.
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