With changes in lifestyle, few people have the time and the interest to nurture relationships. Relationships begin to put your back up. Togetherness is replaced by irritation, annoyance and impatience. Understanding and love get brushed aside instead, for dislike and loathing. This may signal the time for some introspection and changes in attitude.
Think before you react
Before reacting to unpleasant situations, remember the number of times the person involved has gone out of the way to help you achieve something. Also, just remember that this person as well as the words you`ve uttered will remain long after you`ve had your say. This will go a long way in curbing extreme reactions.
Live and let live
Begin with a small step by maintaining a healthy respect for other people`s space. Allow people to make their own decisions and judgements, be it financial, emotional, personal or even something minor. In fact, interference is one of the root causes of conflict in relationships. When such consideration is shown, it is noticed and reciprocated.
Sometimes it is merely a matter of understanding yourself a little better. Do you expect something from the people around you? Most of us, on honest introspection, will find that we expect vocal appreciation, support or favours simply because we are used to them.
Smile a little smile
A sense of humour can go a long way in lightening life`s tedium and, learning to laugh at yourself can be a great morale booster in trying times. Smile - it increases your face value. You become more approachable and begin to build bridges with others, paving the way for more meaningful interactions.
Be a friend
The same appreciation that you crave for yourself may boost someone else`s morale, so go ahead and praise more. It is very easy to get involved in your own petty troubles and forget there are people with more serious tribulations. Instead, focus on being a reliable friend, to whom people will turn to, in a crisis.
Apologise as soon as you realise you`ve done something wrong. Remember to criticise less. Sometimes it may be immaturity or lack of experience that makes people react to you. Have the grace to recognise that and forbear from reacting.
Remember the sense of being needed and loved motivates people to live better and longer. Sometimes it needs just a small effort on your part to set things right.