The biggest goal in the early twenties is finding Mr. Right and settling down. The most common deadline that we set for ourselves is to be married and have at least one kid by the time we hit the thirty mark. It`s the biological clock maybe, or social norms or parental pressure, we hit the panic button and tend to become desperate if hadn`t found the better-half in the mid-twenties.
We make desperate attempts to find a guy – change the way we dress up, wear makeup, talk, walk, style, pretty much everything. After a while, we even end up dating all the wrong guys while knowing that we may not have a future with any of them at all. Many women are lucky right from the start – it seems that they were born with special detectors to nose out the right guy and hit it off. We often hear couples telling stories that they were floored the very first time they met.
While most women are lucky to find their better halves to share true intimate relationships with, rest of us have to muddle through life before stumbling upon the right guy. So, rather than beating herself up for the relationships gone wrong, one must take these as first hand experiences and utilize them to distinguish a meaningful relationship from false romantic hopes that are created by the fancies or the mind`s projection of the potential soul mate.
Contrary to the popular belief, discovering the better half is not about falling in love. Neither does it guarantee `living happily ever after`, a concept most women falsely believe in. Women find certain qualities attractive and seek those in their better half. This often results in disappointment. Rather than sticking to the media-inflicted beliefs, one should leave a lot of room for possibilities and have an open mind about better half.
In its purest essence, discovering the better half is like discovering the true self. It`s not finding a person who cans her whole in any way, but when the two come together, both will complement each other so perfectly well that it actually feels like finding the better half that completes her. Discovering the better half is a journey, a long process wherein the two grow together. It means facing challenges, sticking together through ups and downs, and putting in the best efforts to make the relationship work.
Communication is the key. Other important things are, trusting the significant other and being honest with him, respecting him and oneself for being the people they are individually and what they are when they are together.
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