A well mannered, decent, middle class, hard working guy shifts to a new neighbourhood. He sees the girl living across the lane and instantly falls for her. They talk, exchange phone numbers or Blackberry pins, e-mails and become friends on Facebook. Both of them really strike a chord and the hopes start to build up in heart of the guy. But one fine day, he finds out that she is already in a relationship with a rich, snobbish, handsome guy who probably earns 3 times than himself.
Situations like these are encountered quite frequently by people nowadays. There are situations where women, in spite of being in a relationship increase their proximity with another person. Is this their back up plan or is it the indication that they are fed up of the relationship and want to move out?
The fact is that many of the women act subconsciously. When a women finds a guy who earns well or looks good, her brain automatically processes him as a suitable candidate for alimony. Most of the times, she doesn’t bother to think about anything else, like if they share the same interests or not, whether he can really take care of her? The criteria in her mind are so prominent, that she tries to change herself in order to make herself suitable for that one person. But what about the real person she is? She cannot let her real self remain in the curtain for so long. When a suitable guy comes along, who understands what she is, how she feels and what she wants; the girl cannot help but become friends with her or at times may even be involved with him. She still, cannot leave the other man, whom she always considers more important.
While some women might do the same consciously too. They do not see anything wrong in this. As long as the other guy knows about her relationship and acknowledges the truth, there is nothing wrong in just hanging out. The relationship is casual with no string attached which is the beauty of it all. In case, there is any fall out among the couple, there is a feeling of security for the girl which helps her to stay strong. Or when the couple breaks up, the other guy is the obvious substitute in his place.
Do women have backups? This remains an unresolved question, even by women themselves. As they say, it is very difficult to satisfy a woman, and so it goes. Women are seldom satisfied with the man they have, they frequently look for a little fun and freedom outside the relationship. And when they can have it, why stay away? There is no fooling around, the backups (as you may call it) are totally a safe bet. There is no heartbreak, no complications and no commitments. The relationship is easy and casual; and if the situation is handled properly, even their boyfriends do not have much of a problem with it.
Tags : Women, hate, signs, friends, back-ups