After a divorce, most women blame it on themselves that they couldn`t work things out and even believe that they are being punished for making the mistake of marrying the wrong man. Any woman should understand that when things don`t workout well, it doesn`t mean that it`s because of shortcomings from one side. Divorce is not a result of personal failure. Neither does it rub out the happy times spent with the spouse.
While some women condemn themselves, others console themselves by acting as if it`s no big deal - it`s just a piece of paper. In other words they try to avoid grief by denying hurtful emotions. This may seem like a positive approach to many and help them in keeping away from mourning the divorce. As appropriate as it may look in the beginning, it stretches out the recovery phase and paves way for negative effects on her emotions.
One must realize that it`s a major life transition and effects each and every aspect of both lives. Being depressed, sad and even angry will only help the person to recover early and move on, therefore, one shouldn`t try to escape the sadness that follows. Going through a divorce is no doubt, one of the toughest times in a woman`s life and feeling like it`s the end of the world is not unusual. A feeling of worthlessness starts surfacing during the proceedings and begins to grow on the person as the divorce is final.
She may start feeling that she will never find love again. The other side of the picture says that women start hating the guts of the other sex and stop trusting them. Downfall of one relationship doesn`t mean that fate of the other has to be same. On a brighter side, end of a bad relationship gives a woman to think over the problems and their causes so as to avoid such circumstances in the future relationship. A divorce may be very painful in the beginning, but it leaves a emotionally strong and healthy individual behind.
Getting over divorce is very challenging and women should keep themselves very busy during this time. A woman should never find herself doing nothing as sitting idle encourages negative thoughts to creep up. Find a new hobby or even proceed with an older one, go shopping, meet new people, travel, surf the Internet, read books, pet a dog or anything else that helps keep the mind off divorce.
Staying active is important in order to avoid stress as well as depression. Henceforth, she should join a gym and workout routinely. Yoga is another option as it helps in relaxing both mind and muscles. One must remember one thing that this time will pass soon and with time, everything changes.
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