Marriage, a sacred institution, not just brings together two individuals but also their families. Here in India, it is always said that when a girl marries a boy, she also marries his family. The girl has to adapt herself into this new life, with a new family, in a new household. Every household has a different way of doing things and managing the daily chores. It takes time for the girl to adjust in the new house and with her in-laws. She expects all the support from her husband and is completely dependent on him. Whenever there is any disturbing thought meandering in your head regarding any person or any issue, you would first like to talk about it with your spouse. Similarly, if you are having troubles dealing with your in-laws, you would want to discuss it out with your husband because he is the person whom you expect to be understanding and would listens to your thoughts seriously. As a matter of fact, this kind of blind and unreasonable expectation is the source of troubles affecting a marriage. The husband is also a son and a brother. He has been living with his family since the day he was born and if suddenly he is told that his family is wrong and is asked to go against his family, he won’t be able to accept the situation well.
Conflicts with in-laws must be handled with a lot of patience. It is very necessary to take the in-laws positively. You cannot always be thinking that your in-laws are conspiring against you or they haven’t accepted you. If you try to see the negative color, you will see that and if you try to see the positivity, you certainly will see that. Just like they are new and different people to you, you are also a new and different person to them. Who was at fault, whether you or your in-laws, is not important, what is important is that how do you tackle the situation. You have to keep your ego aside and try to take initiatives to resolve the arguments and fights. When you feel that the situation is out of control and you are simply unable to sort things out with your in-laws by yourself then you can communicate the problems to your spouse and later both of you can together discuss it with the family. Such situations are usually very stressful and in such frustration you tend to lose control on yourself and make use of offensive language against your in-laws. You should always try to maintain your cool because anger has never and will never help anyone. Communication is the key to almost all the problems. If there are disagreements between you and your in-laws, you should try and explain your perception and viewpoint to them and also try to understand why their ideas differ from yours. You should always be expressive about your concern for the family and the household so that your in-laws know and believe that you truly care for them.
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