A breakup is the hardest phase one goes through in life. Love, ache, grief, disbelief, agony, regret, envy and many other emotions strike together and effects one in a negative way. In an attempt to keep the relationship alive, most women hold on to the depression so that she can feel closer to the ex. It`s easier said than done, but has to let go of past especially his memories so as to move on to a better future. Time heals every wound and one has to give time some time.
One of the biggest mistakes women make is pretending nothing had happened. Some do that to come out as a strong person while some just hope to get back together. It`s important to realize that it happened for a reason, as a matter of fact, a good reason. Considering a patch up is not the right approach and down the road, she is back to square one and again feeling the need to breakup. Therefore, one must accept that it`s over and only then she can rebound.
Day one is simply for crying, even if a feeling of vengeance is on the mind and a want to just hurt him. Getting the emotions out is notably important, henceforth, one should find a place where she can be alone and shed some tears. Better yet, one can call her gal pals and ask them to come over. There is nothing better than having a shoulder to cry on and the heartbroken also get to talk it out with those who really care about her.
Grief-stricken women often start to blame themselves for all that`s happened. They exaggerate their faults and overlook his. It takes two to make and break a relationship. There is no way it`s only one person`s fault and it`s important that such feelings are nipped in the bud. Sometimes relationships simply don`t workout and maybe there`s someone much better is somewhere waiting around the corner. One should always remember that it has to happen only once and may he was not `the one`.
After two days of grieving over the loss, time to snap out of it and clutch at damage control. And here are some great tips to do that:
No matter how much one is dying to call or see her ex, resisting the urge is the need of the hour. Avoiding all kinds of contacts is the best thing to do now - don`t visit the neighborhood he lives in, stay away from common friends, put a stop to checking his facebook page after every hour for updates (if possible, block his posts) and don`t even think about stalking him. Put an end to obsession!
Hanging out with friends and family members is very helpful. Call all your girlfriends and shop till you drop! There is no better stress buster than shopping and when given an opportunity, don`t hesitate to buy a cocktail dress.
Take up a sport, hit the gym or maybe start kickboxing. That really helps taking the frustration out. It`s time to dig a bit deeper into one`s hobbies – swimming lessons, dancing schools, cooking classes or just about anything at this point of time will help keep mind off the breakup.
Watching a good movie, redecorating one`s room, reading books, painting, gardening are some activities one can enjoy. It`s all keeping busy, being patient and enjoying the rejuvenation process only to find something really good on the other side of it.
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