Love, understanding, trust and sex are the most important things required a make relationship work out well. While some women maintain a perfect balance in all the four, most often neglect one or two wherein sex tops the list. Lack of interest in sexual intercourse is common in many couples; some think of it as a mere routine, some a responsibility and others as a burden. Reasons for disinterest vary from one couple to another and include intimacy issues, sexual anxiety, midlife crisis and simply boredom.
Whatever may be the reason for a person to turn away from sexual intercourse; she should open her mind up and have a positive approach to it. The first thing one has to do is not have the feeling of being forced into it and change her outlook as sex is not merely a customary physical act with her partner, but a communion that deepens their intimacy. If lovemaking is slipped out of one`s relationship, there are umpteen ways to reignite the fire.
Communication is the most important factor in helping build a good physical relationship. One should initiate a healthy conversation about her turn-ons, sexual desires and ask her partner about his. This will help them both understand what they need and expect from each other. Most men are haunted by performance anxiety; therefore, it`s important for women to talk things out. Though mainly affecting men, performance anxiety is not uncommon to women as well. Known as anorgasmia, it makes women unable to have orgasm.
One must understand that it`s not a task that needs to be carried out. Rather a pleasurable experience for both and should be enjoyed by shutting the mind off other things and staying in the moment. Both the partners need to be aroused in order to have fulfilling sexual intercourse that`s why foreplay is significantly important. Caressing goes a long way, so does touching. And it`s not just during the foreplay, a simple touch outside the bedroom, anytime during the day, can do wonders to one`s sex life.
A simple kiss on the cheek while heading off to work, a deep gaze into the eyes in the supermarket, simply holding hands or leaning on his shoulder while watching TV can help revive the diminished sexual drive. The simple reason is that most couples become cold and unfriendly to their partner which makes it very difficult to initiate a sexual relationship in the bedroom.
Apart from that, one can always try out new things, however, that requires consent of both. Being open to suggestions from her partner, exploring new ideas and being creative is the best way to step out of sexual boredom. People with wild fantasies must take note of safety and not put themselves or their partners at any kind of physical as well as sexual risk.
The most important thing for a woman is to not wait for him to make the first move. First, always make sure that the mood is right and the setting perfect.
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