How do you encourage your child to think independently? It's simpler than you think. Just listen- when she or he has something to say. This will encourage creativity and independence.

In fact this is easier said than done. Most of us are too busy to listen to what our children have to say. Sometimes, we indulge them, interrupt them and correct them. Have you given a thought to the message, which the child gets, when you do so? That whatever she is saying is not important enough, that you are not taking her seriously. But you never meant it to be so!

Such reactions starts undermining the child's confidence. She gets more dependent on you for her opinions. Because she feels her own is inadequate. And this lack of confidence will manifest itself, in various ways, right into her adult life.

Your child will only talk of things that fascinate her mind. You may not be able to relate to it. But give her a patient ear. And try to get involved. Be more of a friend and less of a parent!

She doesn't need an appointment to have her say with you. She isn't a part of your professional life. She might tend to ramble and take time getting to the point. But it's all a part of the charms of childhood. Enjoy it without glancing impatiently at your watch.

Don't try to correct her or ask her too many questions. This venture is not about her being right. It's about building her confidence by listening to her. So, let her have her say the way she likes it.

Show her you are listening. Respond adequately. Sound interested. An indifferent "Hmmm?" or "Uh oh" will send a negative message.

Don't force your child to talk either. If she is comfortable with silence, let her be. But you could try to get involved in her activities. Or tell her stories. Once she is comfortable communicating with you, her confidence level will grow.

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