We all need to hear loving statements from people we care about. It may be easy to assume that your kids know you love them. After all, you do love them and you probably do a lot of loving things for them. That's important.
But, feeling love for someone is not the same as expressing it.
Say it. As a gift to yourself, communicate your love daily.
Keep it simple!
"I love you" is a complete sentence.
"I love you when you drink up your milk ", or "I love you when you don't cry", suggest that you love your child because of his behaviour or accomplishment. It also suggests that the love wouldn't be there, or be quite the same, if the child hadn't tidied the room or made the grades.
"I love you". Period.
No 'ifs' or 'buts' about it! By the same token, watch the tendency to use "I love you" as a lead-in to a confrontation about something your child has done that you find disturbing.
If you say, "I love you, but you are a bad boy," all the child ends up hearing is, "You are a bad boy". Using 'but' in the same sentence as "I love you" is confusing.
No expectations. Say "I love you" because you want to say "I love you." Say it because you feel love toward the child you are talking to. Say it because it feels good to say it.
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