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 Have realistic goals as a mother. However, it is important to give yourself the gift of flexibility. No one is perfect, and no one can predict how she will feel as a parent before she becomes one. Allow yourself to be human, and to change your mind!
It is not entirely true that you will feel an instant and consistent attachment to your baby right away. Many new mothers are so exhausted by the birth experience that they are not even interested in their baby at first. Your reactions to each baby you have will depend on your mental and physical health, your emotions, the birth experience, your baby's temperament and other demands on you at the time.
It's strange that in most of our relationships, we accept that it takes time to form a strong bond, but mothers are expected to feel instant, unconditional love. You may have that feeling - you probably will - but then again, you may not.
It may take you and your baby a while to come to know and love each other.
And this is neither unnatural, nor a sin.
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