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Ask any mother in confidence and she will confess that her best ammo is her temper. While most people believe that it is their father they fear, they tend to forget how a simply “or else” from their mother terrifies them even more.
A Mother`s fury is something that may be harmful for children if not channelized in the right manner. Here is an example to understand this better.

“Ria and Tina were friends. They both had one daughter and one son each. Both being happily married, lived a content life. Once when Tina’s son came back from school she saw that he was covered in mud, he hadn’t eaten his food, and that his books were all drenched. She lost her temper instantly and asked him to go for a bath. When he was done, she grounded him and took away his TV time, and told him to remake all of his notes. Her son was always afraid of playing after that and tried his best to only do what his mother would tell him to. He lost his friends and even his grades began to drop.

Ria’s son was with Tina’s son and returned home in a similar fashion. Ria was furious too. However, she glaringly told him to first go wash up. When he came out, she asked him why he didn’t eat him food, and came to know that a friend had given them all a treat that day. She then calmed down and told her son that he should have been careful of his books when playing around, and always eat his food, as outside food wasn’t that healthy for him. After that, her son learned how to be careful with his things. He used to finish his food every day, and eat extra on the day of treats. However, he knew that he was allowed to have fun, as long as he was a little careful. It encouraged him a great deal“
Both the mothers were furious on seeing their sons, however, what Tina did, had a negative impact on her boy, whereas Ria’s son, was more comfortable in the end.

Anger should be channelized in the right manner, especially by a mother. A mother always has a special bond with a child. This bond is what makes them feel protected with her. While a mother cannot allow her children to get away with everything, losing her temper may impact the child’s mind in a negative way.

It has been seen, that temper moms tend to raise insecure children with violent tendencies and either a fear of abandonment, or separation anxiety disorder. They will either stay away from the mother a lot, or cling on to her unhealthily.

It is important for a mother to control her fury, never unleash it completely. While the anger should ensure that the child speaks up, it shouldn’t be so much that it makes the child lie or feel too scared to say anything. A Mother should get angry enough to encourage a child to do things right, but not so angry to make them feel horrible about doing it.
Parenting may be an art, but being a mother, that’s a science!

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