When entering the teenage years, a girl is still the mommy`s best friend and daddy`s little princess and before her parents can identify the changes, she shifts gears and seems like a complete stranger. Mothers, more than anyone else, worry about the transformation of their daughters from sweet, candid and doll-loving little girl to very secretive, annoyed and bitter young woman.
In a flash, the mother-daughter specials such as walking in the park, sharing thoughts and confiding secrets are replaced by closed doors, crabby attitude and disrespectful remarks. Mothers get devastated to see their daughters spin out of control and act in an unjust way which often worsens the situation.
Mothers usually think that they survived teenage years without cellphones, parties, movies, boyfriends, night outs and so on. Why can`t their daughters? Moms need to have an open mind about the present social scenario of teenagers and their lifestyle. Here are a few tips that will help mothers understand their teenage daughters better and handle each situation in a rightful manner:
A mother should always allow and respect her daughter`s privacy. Some things are better left alone and to know her secrets, mom should befriend her so that she spells it out if anything threatening comes up.
Teenagers value their friends more than anything in this world; hence, their mothers should remember not to scold, yell at or embarrass them in front of their friends.
Whatever she is doing, encourage her and tell her that she is right, even if one thinks that it`s wrong. However, do inform her politely about the consequences and how bad things can turn up later.
Never forget to keep the volume lower when talking to her. Even if mom is angry for some reason, she must talk to her daughter in a calm voice.
Moms should show their daughters that they trust them – Let them make their own decisions and learn from their own mistakes. Teach and guide them while allowing them to find their own path – being at liberty is way more important than being right.
Keep the communication lines running – Be patient, supportive and a good listener. A mom must let her daughter know that she can turn to her for anything.
Some issues are very sensitive and should be handled with utmost care. Boyfriends are inevitable and with that come the chances of becoming sexually active. One should understand that she can`t forbid her daughter; therefore, it`s best to inform her patiently and very calmly about sex, teen pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and how all these would affect her physical and mental health. Another important thing is befriending everyone she hangs out with – friends, boyfriends, classmates.
Tags : Women, reading, mother, teenager, daughter