Start smart. Make all your appointments    for mammogram, pap smear before the calendar fills up. Also make unbreakable dates for a facial, massage or aerobics with a good trainer.

Seek emotion in motion. Workout your mind and body by walking in a new place once a week. You'll burn off calories and stress as you explore the sights.

Unchain your brain. Active minds stay sharper    and sharp minds are sexy! So seek new activities. Take a class or find a volunteer commitment.

Remember your gender. You are a woman! So make yourself feel beautiful. Soak in the tub with a racy novel. And toss the tattered, ill-fitting stuff in your closet. Buy a new outfit, some new perfume    or at least, some new lingerie!

Be spontaneous. Catch your partner by surprise and shed your inhibitions. (Who says the kitchen is just for mealtime? Push back the chairs and do the tango!)

Reconnect. With yourself, that is. Make time in your day to relax, reflect and connect with what's important to you. Get a massage, do yoga, or meet your partner for lunch.

Celebrate the seasons of your life. Your sexual desires, attitudes and performance will change at every stage and age. Recognise that these changes are occurring, and talk with your partner about them. (Remember, he's changing, too!)

Nothing in life is worth shedding tears over, the "joie de vivre" hibernating in the inner walls of your heart needs to break all barriers and spill forth. Smell the flowers, walk in the rain, bake fresh chocolate chip cookies for the hunk in your life or the baby you adore.... Live life from your heart!