A child needs to be told of the potential dangers lurking in today`s world. Teenagers may be well grown and act confident. But they are really a little more than children. Any kind of sexual advance would not only traumatise them, but could rob them of their self worth. Most victims tend to feel guilty, as if they were the criminals. They carry that guilt with them for many years. It affects their studies, their careers and their value system.
Teach your child not to give out personal details and family situations to people they don`t know well. They shouldn`t be handing out their names and telephone numbers and e-mail ids to anyone other than friends.
Discourage your child from visiting chat rooms online. More often than not, people are not what they claim to be. You r teenaged daughter might think she is chatting with another teenager. It could well be a an older man who is gleaning her personal details from her, telling her dirty jokes or setting her up in some way.
If she or he comes across indecent pictures of children online or elsewhere, tell her to report it either to you or to her schoolteacher. No child should be exposed to such drivel.
Explain what could entail sexual harassment. Lewd suggestions, touching, brushing past or indulging in inappropriate behaviour could all fall into this category. If someone harasses them in the above-mentioned ways, tell them to confide in you or to a teacher in school.
There may come a time when your child needs to confide in you. Give the child your sympathy and instil confidence in him or her. She is not responsible for what happened. Don`t make her feel guilty in any way. Remember she has been the victim of a perverted person.
She trusts you to keep her secrets. She may not feel comfortable if you talk to others about it. Respect her need for privacy. At the same time explain to her that you may need to talk to her teacher so she can be looked after in school too. You are acting in her interests.