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I like to dwell on subjects where the protagonist is a woman and the story is woven around relationships. By that I don`t mean the normal saas-bahu (mother-in-law and daughter-in-law) conflicts. This is a common problem and cannot be solved until the mindset of people changes.

This issue has taken a backseat as nowadays most women are employed and excel themselves in their chosen walk of life. There is much awareness among women, especially in Chennai. They have put an end to it themselves and have adjusted according to the given circumstances.

Very rare cases of this kind are reported from the extreme north where women are isolated (Bihar, U.P. etc..) as they are illiterate and not exposed to the outside world.

The protagonists in my story are modern working woman and the issues explored and its treatment, are more pragmatic and contemporary. One thing that always needs to be borne in mind while writing a story is that all characters need to have some shades of grey. The issues must not be monotonous as that of the Saas-Bahu. This is very important for developing the various plots and sub-plots as the story progresses.

I can tell you the real story of a family who stayed next to my home. One that almost collapsed by quarrels only due to complex feelings.

There were two sisters namely Chunni and Mmunni who had a very small age gap between them-only about a year or so. A sort of complex developed between the two, resulting in frequent quarrels without proper understanding, due to the small age gap. Comparison became the tool or weapon of attack and this continued for a long duration till they became matured.

The younger had dislikes towards her elder sister as well as her parents. This finally settled only after she got married as she realised the reality of life now.
This is a true story and adds colour to the actual feelings of what relationship is!

I personally feel that the sweet memories of childhood was almost lost and the sisters enjoyed very little of it. This entirely lies in the hands of women who must try to bind their relationship and avoid having children too early. The modern women must realise that the age gap should be at least 5 years. This really was an acid test of endurance for the two sisters.

Relationship is the bondage of love, affection that comes from one`s bosom. The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love. What seeds will you plant there, is just like asking what sort of relationship will you maintain with your people?

Your people! The greatest problem on this path is illusion which can even overthrow the relationship. Most relationships are not made in heaven. They come in kits and you have to put them together yourselves.

Relationship has been quoted by different personalities in different ways. We can have a glimpse of some before entering into reality:

As told by Ruth Sargent," You have your views and your feelings and I have mine, and I don`t mind in the least if they don`t match".

Voltaire once said, "Relationship is the first law of friendship that it be cultivated; the second law is to be indulgent when the first law has been neglected".

People who have lost relationships often wonder why they can`t just let it be "water under the bridge." It is water under the bridge - but we do not live on the bridge but in the river of life with its many twists and turns.

Relationships, without giving as well as taking, are but a doomed affair in the making. Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution. A great big hurt is better than a lot of little hurts in a relationship.

All men make mistakes but married men hear about them a lot sooner. A man in love is not complete until he is married. Then he is finished. Some people come into our lives, leave footprints in our hearts and we are never the same. People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.

Men! They are all perverse, and one`s occasional desire for their company is the most perverse of all. If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere. The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in one another`s life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.

Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.

"Relationships can survive or perish! It all depends on the way we take things in life. It is better to take things light in life as life is short and cannot be tasted again once if lost! It is better to be an optimist who always views life on the brighter side and blooms the essence of life."

"It was too late for the people of India to feel the importance of the Father of our Nation, "Mahatma Gandhi" as Jawaharlal Nehru had quoted after the assassination of Mahatma, lovingly known as Bapu. "Friends and Comrades the light has gone out of our lives and there is darkness everywhere........"

Such are my sincere feelings towards love, relationship, bondage, family binding etc.....We should cross the hurdles in the way of relationship as it is the binding factor of one`s life !

That`s it!

My home is where my husband, my 2-year-old daughter and I stay. Without them my home would not be a home but a house, as the great saying goes that chandeliers, carpets and crystal make it a house but it is the people who live in it that make it a home, a true home. I like my home to be really cosy and to make the people who come to my house feel that they are welcome at all times.

"A HOUSE IS BUILT BY BRICKS AND A HOME IS BUILT BY HEARTS!".
In the same way:
"RELATIONSHIPS ARE JUST LIKE HOME WHICH MUST BE BUILT BY HEARTS AND NOT BY MERE BRICKS!"

Mrs. Vidhya Srinivasan