It started out as an innocent email. My contact with a person who was as gentle as gentleness could be and as wise as wisdom can be. This friend of mine constantly guided me and helped me. But never did I realise that this would be the source of a constant stream of sorrow that would last a long time.
From the innovative "Rainbows follow stormy skies" to the "God loves those who love themselves", he encouraged me all the way.
Then came the strike, a strike that he deemed to be an "undue concern" in his affairs. . He is a gentleman by all standards, the son of an affluent man and his ideas in life used to inspire me very much. We started having misunderstandings when I used to point out certain things that he did like "drinking illegal whisky" and stuff like that which he said he took only as a part of "being a youth". Then came the bomb....an idiot that I was I called him a handsome rich guy. This was the end....he felt I liked him only for his status and position, but I know it was not so. It was just a casual conversation. But I guess I should have known better for he constantly yearns for friends, who like him for just him and not for his family status or his money.
This followed nights and day of asking God to help me forget him. I did do fine for the next couple of years. Now forgotten for over two years he surfaces again as I walk, as I talk and even as I speak. Is this a sign from God that I should keep on persisting and praying for him? Or is this craziness? Maybe I did invade his privacy and all I need is one chance to ask him for forgiveness. Living miles away and with him not communicating to me... I would never know.
But what if each of us were to react indifferently to the actions of our friends. What kind of friends would we be? The situation is indeed a maze within a maze.
Are you in one of those circumstances in life? Split apart from a friend you can never patch up with? Just pray for them and let them go. One thing my friend taught me was that life is short and to quote in his words, ` There are too many people around that love and care about me. There are also so many that I love and care about. I can`t control what is to happen in the future but what I do have the ability to do is to let the ones I love know how much I need them and how much I care.` That is what I tried to do for this friend but it did not work. But life is short and not to be sulked about. Walk ahead guys and make the best use of life.
It did and still hurts me so badly to lose out on a good friendship but how would we define "good" if we do not have anyone who is actually concerned about us. We all want friendships to last forever. Human friendships never do. Make the best of every opportunity to make friends and remain friends. If circumstance prevents you from achieving this goal try your best to mend it, if not just forgive yourself, forgive your friend and get on with life because God has a perfect plan for both you and your friend.
By Sneha Chrysolite Paul