conflict... major issue, we should ask ourselves..
What are you like??
Different people use different strategies for managing conflicts. And there are learned in childhood & seem to function automatically. Actually we are not aware of how we act in conflict situation. We just do whatever seems to come naturally.
i will suggest, if the situation come to engage with conflict, we have to think on two things:
& your personal goal.
Here, I will give you five styles of managing conflict with example.
Lets think aboot turtle ( 1st Style):
Have you observed turtle carefully??
Turtle withdraw into their shells to avoid conflict. They give up theor personal goals & relationship. They stay from the issue over which the conflict is taking place & from person they are in conflict with.Turtles belive it is hopless to try resolve conflicts & believe to withdraw from conflict than to face it.
Let talk about Shark (2nd style)
Shark means... overpower. Their goal are highly impoartant to them & relationship is minor importance. They see to acheive their goals at all costs.they are not concerned about need of oters. Shark assume that conflicts are settles by one person winning and one person loosing. They want to be the winner!! losing gives them a sense of weakness.
How about the Teddy bear(3rd Style)
Hmmmmm... Smoothing like mother.
To teddy bear the relationship is great importance while their own goals are of little importance.they want to be accepted and liked by others. They think that conflict should be avoided in favour of harmony & discuss conflict without damaging relationship.
Cunning FOx (4th Style)
Foxes are moderately concerned with their own goal and their relationship with others. Foxrs seek ot compromise. They are willing to sacrifice part of their goals & relationship in order to find agreement for the common good.
last but not least : The Owl
Owls highly values their goals & relationship. They view conflict as problems to be solved & seek a solution that achieves both their own goals & the goals of the other person.Owl see conflicts as a means to improving relationship by reducing tension between two person.
Now, I know you have question in your mind, which is perfect style.
Let me tell you all are perfect & we need to behave as per situation by judging goals important or relationnship.....